A collection of wisdom, my personal beliefs, and practices to improve YOUR life.
The Law of Attraction
“And when you want something, all the universe conspires in helping you to achieve it.” - Paulo Coelho
I have always had an ability to achieve everything I have ever set my mind to. This is not because I’m some sort of superhuman who is naturally gifted at everything but rather because I have faith in the universe and truly believe that everything I want already exists and is attainable to me.
The way that we think has direct impacts on what we attract. For example, if you think to yourself that you want to make more money but also believe that this won’t be possible for you then you are right. It won’t be possible. If you want to make more money and believe that you can and will you’re on the right track. Believing is the first step to accomplishing any goal; commitment and consistency follow.
I personally believe in the law of attraction which essentially states that focusing on positive energy will bring positivity into your life and focusing on negative energy will allow negativity to enter your life, and that by vibrating at the same frequency as what you are aiming to attract you can achieve anything you desire.
Everything the universe has to offer vibrates at its own frequency. Positive things and positive people vibrate at high frequencies and negative things and negative people vibrate at low frequencies. For example, if you are vibrating at a low frequency, walking around with a cloud over your head and a sorry face, and you are wondering why there aren't any happy, ambitious people in your life it could have to do with your frequency. If you begin actively committing to smiling more and setting aside time to do things you love to do, you will quickly realize more happy people around you, and you will attract better energy into your life. You must believe that the positive people you seek already exist just as you must believe everything you desire already exists.
What and who you surround yourself with is what and who you will attract.
ACTION IS KEY
If you are an artist and haven’t painted in a week and wonder why you’re feeling uninspired GET OUT YOUR PAINT BRUSHES AND PAINT.
If you are a writer and haven’t come up with a new idea no matter how long you stare at a blank word document and the black bar on the blank page blinking at you GO OUTSIDE, STARE AT THE SKY, MEDITATE.
ACTION IS KEY
You can’t have anything by doing nothing.
“When you do things from your soul, a river moves through you. Freshness and a deep joy are the signs.” - Rumi
I hit a low point in 2016 where I didn’t feel like myself. I pride myself on being ambitious and motivated. I am happiest when I am busiest and I know this, yet I was spending days doing nothing due to an unprecedented lack of determination and energy to succeed. I needed to make a major change to shift my frequency, so I applied for an internship at an art museum and education center local to me. I was interviewed by 3 of the lead educators and it was fantastic. Not only was I offered the position during the interview but I was asked to start working the following day. This was a rare circumstance, but my life truly changed drastically overnight.
From the next day forward my entire world was altered. I went from vibrating at a low frequency to a high one...constantly buzzing from spending the majority of my time creating art, surrounded by creative people, in an open environment.
I have been creating art all my life and I have been teaching art for nearly 7 years. Both of these creative outlets provide me with a sense of fulfillment, purpose, empowerment, and liberation from all of the background noise of life. Spending the majority of my time with youthful energy raises my frequency. When surrounded by bubbly children, I can be my goofiest, most inspired, and authentic self. When surrounded by artists, I meet more creative people like myself and can feel understood and respected for choosing a creative path. Creating art EVERY DAY keeps my ideas fresh and helps me to attract more art opportunities. What you do is what you attract so figure out what it is that you are passionate and set goals for yourself to make time to do what you love each and every day.
Goals and Using Mantras and Vision Boards
“...there’s nothing cooler than watching your entire reality shift into one that is the perfect expression of you." - Jen Sincero
No matter what goals you are working towards we all have personal thresholds. When reached, we want to give up rather than push forward past stages of difficulty. Maybe you want to start reading books for 30 minutes everyday rather than watching TV. You set this manageable goal that you believe you can achieve, and you spend time imagining yourself following through. You make a commitment and begin reading. After the 3rd day in a row of reading for 30 minutes you sit down with your book and your mind begins to wander; you are starting to think of more valuable things you “should” be doing with that time. Sometimes it is hard to stay true to your goals when you don’t give them the significance they deserve. If setting aside time to read makes you feel good, it is valuable. Whether you want to read more, paint more, spend more time with friends, or improve your time management skills you need to cut out all room for excuses and you must commit to your goal in a habitual way. If you are serious about achieving what you desire you must treat your goals the same way you treat all of your priorities. Once you commit it is important that you keep up with your new formed habits until your goal has been reached or you have fully incorporated whatever it is you are working on into your routine. Consistency is vital to success. Nobody is an overnight success. Just like anything else, achieving your goals and trusting the universe takes practice. If your goal is to write a novel, set manageable goals for yourself that rely on consistency and be unwavering about them. Write one paragraph a day from 5:00 - 6:00 PM no exceptions. If your goal is to improve your confidence create affirmations for yourself and consistently repeat them when you wake up in the morning and again before you go to bed.
A few tips I have for implementing my own goals are creating mantras and vision boards.
I love mantras. I have anxiety and sometimes the best way to quiet my busy brain is to repeat a simple sentiment over and over. Mantras can be used for all sorts of things and often times are used to manifest goals.
If you want to get a job promotion, be healthier, meet your soulmate, or do just about anything - mantras can help you. Be specific and repeat your mantra as you meditate. Clear your mind of all unrelated thoughts and let your dreams consume you. You can manifest whatever you desire. Starting and ending each day with your goals in mind will help align your energy with achieving that goal. Some simple mantras I use are: “Keep Your Calm” and “Inhale gratitude exhale bad attitude.”
Create visions boards by collaging images of the specific things you want in your life. Write about the life you see yourself living, the people you are with, what you are wearing, what you eat each day. Be specific and write everything that comes to mind even if you think it is impossible (especially the things you think are impossible). Hang your vision board above your workspace or any other place that you will see each day. This is pure magic. Personally, in January 2016 I hung up a vision board containing all my goals for the year and everything I wanted to manifest. The craziest thing is that every single picture I had on there, everything I wanted to come true DID. I was accepted to the University I wanted to be accepted to even though it was a reach school, I conquered my relationship goals, I spent a considerable amount of time outdoors, I visited so many art museums, and I went on dozens of roadtrips with my friends. The law of attraction is real; your goals are real; everything you want to achieve is achievable.
By thinking about your goals more, you’re more likely to be active and pursue the steps to make them a reality. Say yes more. Be open. Believe that all of the good already exists because it DOES; it really, truly does.
Loving Yourself +Accepting Others
“Imagine what our world would be like if everyone loved themselves so much that they weren’t threatened by other people’s opinions or skin colors or sexual preferences or talents or education or possessions or lack of possessions or religious beliefs or customs or their general tendency to just be whoever the hell they are." - Jen Sincero
Treating yourself with the utmost kindness is imperative. If you are being hard on yourself, one exercise I suggest is to imagine yourself as a child. How would you respond to 5 year old you if you were feeling down? Probably not so harshly.
Sometimes without noticing it, we treat ourselves poorly, and then wonder why people around us don’t treat us with respect. It all starts from within. It’s normal to feel under appreciated, but you should always be your own biggest supporter. Loving yourself fully and unconditionally, in spite of and/or because of your flaws, embracing all of who you are and the magic you are capable of is incredible. Every day I make sure to smile in the moments I can to just show appreciation that I get to wake up and go be me. You should be your favorite person. You should love yourself. This will help you to love others.
By loving yourself and loving others, a whole cyclical pattern of happiness, love, and amazingness is created, and it’s pretty fucking awesome. Everyone knows how great it feels to receive a compliment. Every opportunity you see to be genuinely kind you should TAKE ADVANTAGE OF IT. Nobody will ever judge you for complimenting them. Go up to strangers and tell them you like their style. Tell your classmate you were impressed with how eloquently they spoke during their project presentation. Often times when I receive a compliment my immediate response is to compliment that person back, continuing to spread the joy. Social media has it’s pros and cons, but it can be used as a good medium to spread love. It is incredibly easy to comment on a friends post with a positive message. Tell your friends they are beautiful, creative, witty, etc. It doesn’t cost a dime but it can make someone feel like a hundred bucks.
Social Media - Comparison For Breakfast
“When you’re busy creating your own fulfillment, you won’t feel the need to seek it from others." - Rachel Wolchin
In my ‘Badass Women’ series, I almost always ask the girls I interview how they start their days. I hear pretty consistently that the first thing people of this generation do as they open their eyes is check their phones; scrolling through Instagram and consuming images.
Social media can be great, but it can also be a catalyst for comparison. Comparing yourself to others isn’t a healthy way to start your day. Consuming images isn’t always nourishing to our bodies, and it certainly is not part of a balanced diet.
Cutting down on electronics cleanses your soul of comparison.
I think social media can be great but, like most things, it’s all about how you use it. As I mentioned before, social media can be used as a platform to spread joy through commenting compliments. You can share all of the goodness in your life and show the world what you are passionate about. However, when used as an outlet for negativity ((even unintentionally)) time spent on apps and social media becomes a problem.
We look around and see this digital world of perfection. Everyone is showing the good. And while I think it's better to radiate positivity and I think that rubs off on people; honesty is important too. It is rare to find accounts that show the reality of someone’s day. Our feeds act more like a highlight reel, and while that is self-evident, it is SO incredibly easy to forget that EVERYONE else is also only sharing their best moments, and the low points HAPPEN FOR EVERYONE; they just go unseen.
By using social media less, you train yourself to become less reliant on acting based on comparison. It may appear that the other people you know are always wearing the best clothes or travelling to the greatest places and so you try to start living more like that too, possibly from a place of jealousy. Yet, we do this without an awareness for how they felt or for what we truly desire. Maybe you don’t actually care so much about clothes or seeing the world but all you want to do is pursue your music career. Yet, you subconsciously are expending energy focused on comparing who you are and what you don’t have in relation to what other people have.
By forcing someone else’s experience onto your own you are compositing, and authenticity is blurred by a transparent layer of replication. Comparison is the root of the issue. You visually see things through somebody else’s lens before you have experienced it. We are so immersed in an over abundance of images. You can see a flat lay of food on your phone before you’ve even had a meal yourself. But it’s merely visual. We perceive the rest...the people the ‘instagrammer’ was with, the sounds of the café, the taste of the toast and eggs, the smell of fresh coffee and the feel of misty morning air.
Then, we go to the café and maybe we don’t document it. Maybe we just sit and drink our tea alone and send emails. We are still experiencing the same sounds, tastes, and smells, but visual comparison tricks us into thinking our experience is subpar. We invent a better, edited, and filtered world that doesn’t exist.
But good times do exist. And we can capture them, but in the moment we’re not always able to be conscious that the best memories are passing us by. Humans have a hard time being present. We have a hard time not thinking about what’s next for us, or worse, thinking someone else is having a better time than us.
“You know, like this moment, it's holy. But we walk around like it's not holy. We walk around like there's some holy moments and there are all the other moments that are not holy, right, but this moment is holy, right? And if film can let us see that, like frame it so that we see, like, "Ah, this moment. Holy." And it's like "Holy, holy, holy" moment by moment. But, like, who can live that way? Who can go, like, "Wow, holy"? Because if I were to look at you and just really let you be holy, I don't know, I would, like, stop talking.” - Waking Life 2001
Be present more often. When you live from a place of positivity and self-love, comparison is no longer second nature. It will take time. Be patient. But with focus, you can train yourself to stop caring what other people think of you, and you can let go of your fears that someone else out there is ‘better’ than you. You can teach yourself to be present.
Get lost staring at the sky. Forget where you are, deep within the pages of a good book. Get closer to your higher self as you journal. The more time you spend living in the moment, the easier it will be for you to recognize holy moments as they occur.
When I am with my friends, I can recognize these significant moments as they’re happening. It makes me appreciate the conversations more. I internalize and memorize the songs we listen to. I try my best to remember how I feel. I try to hold onto what is happening in the moment by recognizing the positivity and the sentimentality before growing nostalgic and romanticizing the memories.
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So...allow yourself to “stop talking” and absorb the magnificence of this planet we get to call home.
Appreciate the goodness and the madness. We share the air we breathe and the water we are composed of with every sentient being in the universe. In a world that feels divided, recognize that we share an ancient oneness.