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Badass Women (010): Baily Rossi

5/28/2017

I think inspiration runs in a circular motion so here’s to hoping I can inspire all the incredible gals as much as they all inspire me. Badass Women is a series about capturing that positive energy and spreading it. Wanna help? Read about these cool girls and share their features with the women that inspire you!!

What is your relationship with beauty?

Beauty is defined within the Self. I don’t think one’s relationship with beauty should be decided by another person’s critique or preference. Of course, we are all living in a world with one another; others will inevitably influence our feelings on beauty. However, this influence is often too prevalent in the ways we view ourselves. I find that I feel most beautiful when I’m naked: no makeup, no clothing, wet hair. I feel most like myself when I’m in my most natural state of being. But I also feel beautiful when I have some hip ass clothes on and can hear my heels clicking on the ground as I walk. Beauty is your varying shades of individuality. I find myself, and others, most beautiful when they can be themselves.

Also, colors. Colors are beautiful. Try to wear shades of every color every week. I think variety remains true to the individual, considering the ways in which we vary everyday.

Coffee or tea?

Tea.
Always tea.

What’s the best book you have ever read?

This is hard for me. I study literature and its many forms everyday as an English major. I have a couple of recommendations for different reasons:

Middlemarch by George Eliot: this has become my bible, especially as a young woman deciding what life means to me. I don’t want to give anything away, but remember that age 21 is the age where you can do everything. Not anything—everything. This knowledge is imperative, especially in the age we live in.

To Kill a Mockingbird by Harper Lee: you probably read it in high school English class, and if you didn’t shame on our failing education system! Justice is never promised in this life, even when it should be. We need more people that recognize not just justice, but the harm that is done when it fails… As well as the good that is done when it prevails. Don’t lead your life shooting down mockingbirds, or you’ll never hear their beautiful music.

Ulysses by James Joyce: there is not much I can say, accept don’t undervalue the everyday. There is so much happening around us, within us, on the average day—things that will never leave us, even if we leave them.

The Winding Stair and Other Poems by W.B. Yeats: his poetry changed my life, and this collection of poems remains the most valuable to me. Beyond life, Yeats is aware of the infinite moment of Self. I’ll admit he’s fucked up sometimes, but so were many great authors; we can learn from those filled with passion, even when we don’t agree with them.

If you could give advice to yourself as a ten-year-old, what would you say?

Don’t be afraid of the monsters under your bed. They are apart of who you are. We cannot change the miserable things that happen to us, but we can decide whether we will make ourselves and others miserable because of them.

What is your favorite quote of all time, how do you relate to it?

Oh boy, another tough one… I suppose this is my favorite one as of late:

“I could hear my heart beating. I could hear everyone's heart. I could hear the human noise we sat there making, not one of us moving, not even when the room went dark.”

Other than loving Raymond Carver, I think there is such reverence in understanding our presence in the world. When the world does go quiet, when all those things that stop us from feeling with one another subside, you truly understand how human we all are. We must forgive ourselves for the pain and honor ourselves for the joy. We must listen more closely to each other’s words, but even more so listen to each other’s pule—everyone has a separate life. By acknowledging our affect on others, we recognize our importance to others. We can hurt and heal each other, we can correct and conceal each other. In many ways, we live against the pulse of one another. I believe in existing against the pulse of life, and I hope the people in my life wish to hear my heart beat as much as I love hearing theirs.

Talk about one of your happiest memories of all time:

The first time I ever saw a firefly was magical. I was 12 years old, visiting Williamsburg, Virginia with my grandparents. I don’t know if you’ve ever seen one, but god they are beautiful. I don’t know, there is something happy about being in the presence of something mesmerizing. It’s suddenly not about you or what’s going on in your head, but about this exquisite thing in front of you. I want to move to the East Coast because of this moment.

The other memory that sticks out to me is the first time I wrote a poem. There is too much to say about that, other than the entire course of my life was irreversibly shifted.

Where did you grow up?

Camarillo, CA: the tiniest nooks of all the nooks! But I’m sure many people say this about their hometowns.

How old are you?

20. 21 in 2 months. Oi, numbers scare me when they are so close together. Doesn’t it look a bit frightening? “On the eve of everything,” I tell myself.

What are you passionate about?

This is something you shouldn’t ask me, because my answer is everything—every high and low. I am passionate about every person. I am arguably an overly passionate person. I don’t know how well I can answer this question, but I can offer some advice: let things settle into themselves. Being passionate about all parts of living is a lovely thing sometimes, but it is also very challenging to feel so deeply about certain things. Some parts of living deserve the reverence of simplicity; I often feel I do life an injustice by not being able to let things be. So, that’s something I want to work on.

I want to channel my immense passion into parts of living that really deserve it, and learn to mellow my emotions towards things that deserve peace.

Maybe I sound mad, but passion is more overzealous than beautiful when you let it run mad. I truly believe there is more beauty in one’s ability to harness it.

Could you share a poem you wrote?

“On the Eve of Everything”

Hair twisting up before it falls,
Interludes crash on
The rhythm of dirtied locks,
Waving strands curled inwards
Round.

Cheeks of crusted tarts,
The formation of lips
Pulling taught, Loosening pucker,
Tremors overlay sublime
Space.

Blurring portrait,
Shades of mood
Mark red under truth,
Eyes burn with time’s freckled
Imperfection.

The sunken down pocket of her face,
Rests, than rises
Averted gaze searching,
Or maybe waiting for
You?

Prisms of the mind,
Like soft yellowed grass
In the eyes,
Protruding heart of throbbing
Expectation.

A monument of ruins,
Stroke by stroke made
Weary by some toxic crusade,
Hair twists upwards then
Falls.

Talk about the most challenging thing you’ve overcome, how did you do it?

The realization that all of your good may not be good enough for someone else really scars the heart. I overcame this trauma by seeing the good in what I had always deemed bad. Be with someone who loves all parts of you—that which is good purely because you’ve chosen to not let it be bad. Rather, let it make you badass.

If you were designing the ultimate playlist what 3 bands/artists would you definitely include?

Bob Dylan: holy shit… That is all.

Two Door Cinema Club: dance yourself into oblivion.

Portugal. The Man: just because they rock.

You’re on a deserted island with 3 other people of your choice: who do you choose?

Me

Myself

And I

I think some alone time would be good for me.

Where you can find Baily: https://www.instagram.com/bailyr/

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Spring Reading

5/28/2017

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Spring is a time of growth. Rainy days nourish the earth, and fresh flowers sprout. As humans, spring is a time for rejuvenation and new intentions that were lost in winter resurface. The positive shift in the weather means more time spent outdoors, and there’s nothing better than the simplicity of sitting at the beach or perching at a sunny café reading a good book. This spring I have read and discovered many new great reads that I’d like to share with you today!!

The Rosie Project by Graeme Simsion

“The Rosie Project” is a hilarious examination of the human psyche through the perspective of our protagonist, Don Tillman, an Australian geneticist on the search for his ideal life partner. Written in a voice reminiscent of Dwight Schrute, from The Office ((one of my all time favorite shows)), this quick read will have you laughing from the very first chapter alone.

The Rosie Effect by Graeme Simsion

As I loved “The Rosie Project”, I felt I had to read Simsion’s sequel, “The Rosie Effect.” Similar to the first book in the series, “The Rosie Effect” continues to follow the lives of Don and Rosie. As Don Tillman prepares for a major change in his life, he continues to struggle with basic social mannerisms in his hilarious way. This is a great spring or summer read and like the first book in the series, will have you laughing out loud!!

Not That Kind Of Girl by Lena Dunham

As the critically acclaimed HBO series “Girls” just came to a close after 6 years, I felt it was a perfect time to check out Lena Dunham’s novel “Not That Kind of Girl.” If you watch the show, you will definitely notice the many similarities between Hannah Horvath ((played by Dunham)) and Lena. Her personal stories reveal a lot of truth about womanhood, college, working, and life in general. Although sometimes absurd, a bit off putting, and strangely ridiculous; Dunham’s unique voice and perspective is overall refreshing and entertaining.

Miss You by Kate Eberlen

Timing is everything. In this novel by Kate Eberlen, the main characters, Tess and Gus, continue to miss each other in a spiraling love story covering an array of topics ranging from autism to cancer and wealth’s effect on relationships. This book is a bit tolling emotionally at times, but there is a balance between the heavy aspects and the lighter, sexier anecdotes. The characters are well developed and I like that each chapter switches from one lovers perspective to the next, similar to “The Time Traveler’s Wife” in that sense.

You Are A Badass by Jen Sincero

This is a book I could not rave about enough!! Empowering, enlightening, and fulfilling; “You Are A Badass” will motivate you to achieve your wildest goals. Unlike many self-help type books, Sincero’s voice is anything but preachy. She is incredibly relatable and explains each topic in a down-to-earth tone that is both easy to follow and engaging. To anyone looking for love, a confidence boost, or inspiration to follow their dreams - I would highly recommend giving this beautiful book a read.

The Impossible Fortress by Jason Rekulak

Jason Rekulak’s debut novel, “The Impossible Fortress” follows Billy, a young boy interested in computers on his quest to win a computer game contest and fall in love with Mary, the local hardware store owners daughter. Bringing you back to an age of mixtapes and awkward high school relationships, this slightly nerdy read is a fun tribute to the 1980’s.

Make sure to comment down below if you've read any great books this past month or two!!

Happy spring reading babes.

The end. (:

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Badass Women (009): Elena Scott

5/21/2017

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What is your relationship with beauty?
I prize the beauty in life, both appreciating the material beauty you can see, and the beauty of interactions you can feel. I try to make my life as beautiful as possible through my space, my clothing, and my actions. I am an advocate for romanticising one’s life, and think some rose-colored glasses can help elevate everyday life into your own personal work of art. I am also a notorious crier, and am often brought to tears by the beauty I see in life. From seeing people speak kindly to each other to basically everything animals do, I love seeing the ways that kindness can be beautiful. In today’s world, where it seems like every day there is a new news story about an atrocity or a political scandal, it is so important to seek out the beauty in people and the world.

What’s the first thing you do when you wake up in the morning?
I’m definitely not a morning person so I try to do things in the morning that I look forward to, as my body needs some convincing to throw off warm covers and face the day. I always start my morning with my skincare routine. I love the ritual involved with taking care of my skin, and it is a form of self care for me to use natural oils and serums every morning to keep my skin healthy. On the weekends I also try to cook myself a good breakfast, and do yoga to stretch and recharge. Treating my body right by taking care of my physical self helps me stay balanced emotionally, and prepares me for the rest of the day.

What’s the best book you have ever read?
As a prospective English major and book nerd, this is the hardest question ever. I am a huge fan of expressive and lyrical prose, which Nabokov’s work kind of exemplifies for me (Lolita is a fascinating and very often misunderstood book, it’s super interesting to look at through a feminist perspective). I also love poetry, ranging from Pablo Neruda to Mary Oliver. Reading is so important to me because it allows me to take on others perspectives, and by extension get a chance to live through experiences that I would never otherwise experience. I love to read works by authors of all races, genders, and socioeconomic status to expose myself to differing avenues of thought.

If you could give advice to yourself as a ten-year-old, what would you say?
When I started my women’s group (a program aimed at empowering and educating young women to use their voices and pursue their passions), I always had my young self in mind. Outwardly, I am a very different person now than I was in those years, but I do believe that the moral core that dictates my actions was there all along. I would emphasise that listening to my passions, the things that truly drive me to do what I do every day, are the things that will bring the most success. In the early teen years, others will pressure you to conform to their expectations (that are generally born out of insecurity). By listening to what makes you happy, and pursuing those things wholeheartedly, you will both be happier, and more fulfilled.

What’s something you can’t live without?
My puppy. Spending time with dogs is the easiest way for me to destress, and I love seeing the pure joy that dogs exude. There’s nothing like a good cuddle with a big fluffy dog.

Where did you grow up?
I was born in San Francisco, California, and then moved to San Diego to be closer to family.

How old are you?
18

What are you passionate about?
I am passionate about equal representation in media, women’s rights, literature, fashion, films….the list goes on. Throughout my life, I hope to find ways to get involved in all these passions through the intersections between them. If anything, I’ve had difficulty with just how many things I’m passionate about, as I want to do so much!

What do you think are the best ways for teens to get involved in marches, protests, and social justice?
For me, the biggest step was first understanding that I had the right to stand up for what I believed in. As young women, we are often discouraged from taking stands about our beliefs, and called crazy, bossy, or overly emotional. When I realized that the injustice in the world was something I had a right to be upset about, and furthermore, that these emotions were valid, it set me free. With the current political climate, there are so many opportunities for teens to get involved in social justice. You can volunteer at so many worthy organisations (Planned Parenthood is always a favorite), go to protests, write to elected officials, there is basically endless opportunity. As far as organizing goes, one of the most important things for teens to do is reach out. As young people, we have a lot of passion, but often don’t know where to start. I’ve found that if I work up the courage to ask, there are so many experienced people willing to help make young people’s dreams a reality. Finally, I urge all young people who are inclined to get involved by running for leadership positions. Whether it’s starting a club, or preparing to run for office someday, taking that responsibility has the power to make real change.

Talk about the most challenging thing you’ve overcome, how did you do it?
I have had many serious health issues in the past few years, leaving me unable to accomplish everything I’ve wanted to do. I’ve been continually sidetracked from making change or learning new skills by a new illness pushing me back into bed. For a while, I hated my body for failing me, and resented my inability to keep up with everyone else. I am still in the process of fighting my health issues, but I have now realized that while they are difficult and keep me away from other things, they have made me so much stronger and so much more empathetic. I have learned that I cannot hate my body, as it is the only body I have, and that I should not compare myself to everyone else. Every day that I can get out of bed and do something I love is a victory, and seeing these small things as the blessings that they are has transformed my life for the better.

What tips do you have for balancing school work and a social life?
Ahhh, the eternal question. For anyone going to school, this is undoubtably a struggle. I am a bit of a perfectionist, and definitely value doing well in school, but I do believe it is all about balance. Treating your mental health well through spending time with friends and being happy will actually improve your work ethic and leave you inspired and recharged. For me, coming up with specific time every week dedicated to doing whatever I wanted really made a difference. Every Friday after school, the books and homework would go away. I made a point every Friday to either spend time with friends having fun, or to pamper myself with a bath and some trashy TV. I also always advocate for going to concerts of artists you love, even if there’s school the next day. You can always make up a test or quiz, but you might never get another chance to have that experience. Work hard, but keep yourself healthy, happy, and inspired too.

If you could pick a song to be the theme song to your life what song would you choose and why?
This might be a bit strange, but ever since seeing the movie Almost Famous (an amazing film that everyone who loves 70s music and fashion should see), I have always maintained that the song Tiny Dancer is the best song for singing in the car with the windows down on the highway. I would want my theme song to sound the way it feels to be singing at the top of your lungs with someone you love, windows down and feeling completely free. And for my social justice theme songs you can’t go wrong with Respect by Aretha Franklin, as I’m fighting for everyone to receive the same fundamental respect that all deserve.

Where you can find Elena: https://www.instagram.com/elenascottt/

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Badass Women (010): Baily Rossi

What is your relationship with beauty?

Coffee or tea?

What’s the best book you have ever read?

If you could give advice to yourself as a ten-year-old, what would you say?

What is your favorite quote of all time, how do you relate to it?

Talk about one of your happiest memories of all time:

Where did you grow up?

How old are you?

What are you passionate about?

Could you share a poem you wrote?

Talk about the most challenging thing you’ve overcome, how did you do it?

If you were designing the ultimate playlist what 3 bands/artists would you definitely include?

You’re on a deserted island with 3 other people of your choice: who do you choose?

Spring Reading

The Rosie Project by Graeme Simsion

The Rosie Effect by Graeme Simsion

Not That Kind Of Girl by Lena Dunham

Miss You by Kate Eberlen

You Are A Badass by Jen Sincero

The Impossible Fortress by Jason Rekulak

Badass Women (009): Elena Scott

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Badass Women (010): Baily Rossi

​What is your relationship with beauty?

​Coffee or tea?

​What’s the best book you have ever read?

​If you could give advice to yourself as a ten-year-old, what would you say?

​What is your favorite quote of all time, how do you relate to it?

​Talk about one of your happiest memories of all time:

​Where did you grow up?

​How old are you?

​What are you passionate about?

​Could you share a poem you wrote?

​Talk about the most challenging thing you’ve overcome, how did you do it?

If you were designing the ultimate playlist what 3 bands/artists would you definitely include?

​You’re on a deserted island with 3 other people of your choice: who do you choose?

Spring Reading

​​The Rosie Project by Graeme Simsion

The Rosie Effect by Graeme Simsion

Not That Kind Of Girl by Lena Dunham

​Miss You by Kate Eberlen

​You Are A Badass by Jen Sincero

The Impossible Fortress by Jason Rekulak

Badass Women (009): Elena Scott

Archives

Categories

What is your relationship with beauty?

Coffee or tea?

What’s the best book you have ever read?

If you could give advice to yourself as a ten-year-old, what would you say?

What is your favorite quote of all time, how do you relate to it?

Talk about one of your happiest memories of all time:

Where did you grow up?

How old are you?

What are you passionate about?

Could you share a poem you wrote?

Talk about the most challenging thing you’ve overcome, how did you do it?

You’re on a deserted island with 3 other people of your choice: who do you choose?

The Rosie Project by Graeme Simsion

Miss You by Kate Eberlen

You Are A Badass by Jen Sincero