We’re taught to think outside of the box, yet we spend our entire educations within one. A peek inside my experiences as a student.
“The cognitive dissonance caused by a society that tells its children to “follow their dreams” through messages in films, literature, etc. and then punishes them for not choosing safe, money making careers in adulthood is fascinating, to say the least” - Ellen Kushner
I woke up with the sun and went out to breakfast. I checked the time and disregarded it. I didn’t care if I was late. I was freaking out. I drove even further away to a garden despite the fact that I was supposed to be at school in 30 minutes. I sauntered towards the gates and as I approached they glided open, an employee had just arrived. I followed her in silently and the gates returned to their locked position behind me. The gardens wouldn’t be open for another hour, yet there I was. Whether this was luck or trespassing wasn’t my concern. I boldly bolted the stairs and headed to my favorite bench to meditate and write. By now, I was supposed to be arriving on campus for the first session of Camp College.
Feelings of disgust, anxiety, and isolation consumed me. I didn’t belong there. But, knowing how disappointed my parents would feel if I didn’t show up, I came to the decision to drive to school. Far more than fashionably late, I arrived...blasting an Odesza song as I sped through the parking lot. By the time I reached the doorway, everyone’s eyes were on me. Camp College lasted 3 days, I lasted 1 and a half. I felt so uncomfortable amongst peers I’d known for so long...they all felt like strangers, aliens. I had such different goals than everyone around me and for some reason I was surprised to come to this realization. I recall that, because of my lateness, I chose to sit on the floor rather than search for a vacant chair. Hours later, a college counselor told me ((in a very you don’t have a choice manner)) to find a seat and I said “No thanks.” I was rude to an unnecessary degree and it didn’t end with the way I spoke. We were asked to write answers to college guidance questions, and although I truly stand by the answers I wrote in August 2015 - they were, admittedly, inappropriate. When asked my ideal career, I put things like “going to cafes for 2-3 hours a day to journal and draw” and “taking two 6 month paid vacations a year.” Like I said, I stand by these answers, but they are not exactly what a college counselor would be looking for. And that was just the start of the school year.
“All grown-ups were once children... but only few of them remember it” -Antoine de Saint-Exupéry, The Little Prince
Backing up for some context, I went to a preschool for flower children. Imagine a bunch of toddlers running around a backyard playground eating flowers, playing in the dirt, and learning to cook vegetarian meals and you’ve got The Exploring Child. In retrospect, my earliest formative years of schooling influenced my philosophy on education significantly. Moving into traditional public school Kindergarten through 7th grade, I constantly craved the outdoor classroom and limitless creative freedom I had as a toddler.
I was an artist at heart and I learned the most not from homework or powerpoints but from nature and hands on experiences. Thankfully, my elementary school teachers were lenient and accepting of creative fiction stories as essays and drawings and paintings as projects. But by 6th and 7th grade, guidelines were stricter and the power of my imagination weakened in effect. I would try and put a creative spin on everything; unsuccessfully convincing teachers that my ‘Cornell Notes’ should be ‘Flower Notes’ where the center of the flower was the subject and each petal would be a bullet point of information. I illustrated every book report, I collaged the front of every notebook and binder I had; yet none of this was truly encouraged. Students were expected to all think and work alike, and all room to be unique was squandered. I finished up 8th through 12th grade at a small private school where learning happened around a table and discussions were based around real-world events. I still didn’t enjoy the side of learning that came down to tests and textbooks but I appreciated and thrived in a setting where I was recognized as an individual and had the opportunity to express my views and beliefs freely.
“I love being unfiltered with my only responsibility being to create” -Jay Alvarrez
I always felt that being in a structured 8:00 - 3:00 school schedule drastically hindered my ability to create. I saw high school as this giant obstacle trying to ruin my existence. Incredibly existential, it bothered me to no end to think about all the precious time wasted indoors doing work that wasn’t purposeful to me on my path on this planet. Throughout high school, and especially during senior year, there were many points in which I begged my parents to let me drop out or look into alternative schooling options. I had this vision for my life, a life full of freedom, creating art, and the space to simply be myself. Instead I was spending 5 days a week in an environment learning about things I wasn’t interested in with peers I didn’t relate to where I ultimately felt suffocated as all of my dreams and aspirations were drained from my soul.
As leaving high school wasn’t a feasible route to take, I applied for a demanding internship at Lux Art Institute, an incredible museum and art education center. My life changed drastically. I interviewed and was awarded the internship all in one day, and was asked to start working the next. I didn’t go to school once that week, and it was probably the greatest week of my life up until that point. Clearly, this was something I would need to discuss with the Dean of my high school if I wanted it to last. This internship was my solace from the traditional high school life that was draining everything out of me and I needed it more than anything. I promised my teachers I would maintain A’s in all of my classes and meet with them outside of class in exchange for missing school 3 times a week to work. I persisted and persuaded and fought for the life I believed in until the doubtful adults around me began to believe in it, and in me too.
Although I was physically present in the classroom less, I succeeded more than ever. Having an outlet to explore my career goals allowed me to bring a refreshed perspective to the classroom, but my heart remained invested in the world outside of my tiny school.
With my internship came opportunities I never imagined. I met artists from around the country while working in all different parts of the industry. My colleagues became friends, and my students became mentors. Although I’d been in school 14+ years at this point, I was now immersed in a world where learning was happening more than ever before.
“My mind says college but my heart says isolated sheep herder in Iceland” - Unknown (Tumblr)
My internship confirmed what I always believed was true; that I learned best from experience rather than schooling. I was rapidly gaining an understanding of the art industry and I found that the less time I spent at school the happier I was. For the first time in a long time I genuinely loved my life.
Despite my personal beliefs, attending university was a given growing up. I made it clear to my parents that additional schooling beyond senior year was not appealing to me but they suggested that I should apply and then make a decision months later in case anything changed. So, without doing any research whatsoever, I had tossed college essays and applications into a sea of thousands and was accepted to my ‘top choice’ university. I didn’t really have any reason to declare it as such other than the fact that I wanted to be near the ocean and moderately close to home ((two factors that shouldn’t really be the backbone to any major decision)).
Everyone was excited for me and thrilled that I was going off to school...except for me. Initially, with the buzz of all my peers talking about where they were headed in the fall I felt reassured that this was the right next step to take. But as the energy died, so did my intentions. Why did I want to go to college? I thought this was the thing I was against?
Something I have improved on significantly since March 2016 ((when I was accepted to university)) is not letting society dictate my decisions. There is no right and wrong - there is only now. What I mean by this is that there are never simple right or wrong decisions, it all depends on the moment and who you are in the present. Making choices that society deems right or wrong can be totally irrelevant to you.
I felt like the socially acceptable thing to do would be to attend school and study Art, yet I knew in my heart that it didn’t feel like the right step for me. It is customary at the high school I attended for students to decorate their graduation caps with the name of the college they will be going to, and I chose not to do that. Instead, I bought iron-on patches off Etsy and adhered those to my cap. It was a good call in the end.
“It does not matter if you are a rose or a lotus or a marigold. What matters is that you are flowering” -Osho
To go to college and live a life independent of my family and the comforts of familiarity for months at a time was less like a leap of faith and more like a nudge off a cliff. At first, the free-fall wasn’t so bad. I’d always been capable of doing well in school and I made friends quickly. It was not until I hit the ground and the dust settled that I recognized how incredibly bored I was, and without an internship in the art industry like I had in high school, I was left without an outlet to release that negativity and turn it into creativity.
I grew frustrated and resentful. This wasn’t the life I’d imagined myself living. This wasn’t my truth. I hadn’t known I was capable of being away from home and I quickly realized I was not only capable of being on my own, but I was pretty much capable of anything...so why was I here in a situation that was not working for me when I could be anywhere? I felt abandoned and unhappy and as time went on I found it increasingly challenging to get in touch with the fire within me. My feelings scared me. I loved having days filled with roadtrips, photo projects, painting, and chai lattes...but even time spent doing the things I enjoyed felt hollow.
I came to the realization that I wasn’t being honest with myself. I wanted to be happy in an environment that was making me sad. It was like putting a fish on land and being surprised that it couldn’t survive. Although my grades or academic performance shows otherwise, I never personally felt that I thrived in a classroom. Even when it comes to learning about things I am passionate about, I much prefer experimenting and discovering on my own what works and what doesn’t rather than having the all the fun spoiled by being told what is right and what is wrong.
However, what set me over the edge was the feeling of losing my individuality for nothing in return. At a large university you are a number, defined by numbers, in a sea of numbers, given numbered grades, converted to numbered GPAs; which in sum qualify your value. That did not sit well with me.
I have worked SO hard to be Annie Fay Meitchik. Not a perm number. Not a 92% on my midterm. Not a 6/6 on my photography project. I had spent 18 years devoted to being myself, and I wanted to be treated as such.
“Darling, the world’s not really against you. The only thing that’s against you is yourself” - Unknown
I knew that my personal values were not in alignment with those of the university I was attending and that was something that was not going to change. My happiness was deteriorating, my money was being spent on something that made me miserable, and worst of all my time was being wasted. Besides all that, from an academic standpoint, to continue studying Art at a school without the resources or course offerings to properly teach that subject made no sense to me.
I also still felt incredibly invested in my life back in San Diego. My friends were there, my family was there, and all of my art connections were based in the area as well. College was so out of line with my story it was like I was still on the chapter of my childhood at home with my parents and I had put the book down and started reading someone else’s book at a different chapter. There was this huge disconnect between who I was and what I was doing.
I made the choice to withdraw from school after winter quarter ended to pursue my truth and it was the best decision EVER. Revitalized by the love of my family and the support of my friends I have found myself again and am grateful to be able to simply exist as myself. I rediscovered what it means to be content, appreciated, and joyful. I don’t spend time thinking about where I should be or what I would rather be doing because I have this incredible sense that I am exactly where I am meant to be. I create art each day, I blog, I collaborate, and I have a place at Lux to contribute creatively.
Everyone’s path is different. But if there is any lesson I’ve learned that is universally applicable it’s that you have to do what’s right for you, without guilt. It could feel like the whole world is against you, especially if you are making choices that fall outside the norm - but you absolutely NEVER need to be against yourself. Believe in your ability to make the right choices for you, and beyond that, allow yourself to own those decisions and be proud of the fact that you are in touch with your intentions.
So many people aren’t living a life that resonates with them at their core because (1) it’s hard to figure out who you are in a society built around conformity and assimilation and (2) once you figure out who you are and what you want it’s difficult to break free from that very society and just go for it.
Disregard what everyone else thinks, even if it’s just merely for a moment and take the time to define what it means to be you and what you need to not only survive, but thrive.
“When a flower doesn’t bloom you fix the environment in which it grows, not the flower.” - Alexander den Heijer
If the environment you are in is hindering your ability to flourish, take action.
Your existence is up to you.
Remember that it is everyone else’s first time on their journey too. Nobody but you will ever live your life, so you may as well be confident in your instincts and follow your heart.
Spend time doing the things that leave you with a lasting sense of fulfillment and purpose and allow that to be the center of each decision you make.
I think inspiration runs in a circular motion so here’s to hoping I can inspire all the incredible gals as much as they all inspire me. Badass Women is a series about capturing that positive energy and spreading it. Wanna help? Read about these cool girls and share their features with the women that inspire you!!
What is your relationship with beauty? Beauty, to me, comes in the faces and eyes and smells of babies; it comes in the morning skies, as the sun is breaking through, it comes in the people I love and their sparkling eyes and smiles. Beauty comes in laughter. It comes in the appreciation of well-designed homes, furniture, clothing, planes, trains and automobiles and art. And in the sweetness of Mollie, my dear sweet pup, and all her cousins, cats and dogs alike. It also comes in balancing books, reading books and articles which inform and entertain. It comes in music, dance, theater and movies. Beauty comes in my family because of our strong connections and in people joining together to speak their minds and stand up for their beliefs.
What’s the first thing you do when you wake up in the morning? Nature calls so, after, checking the time and my phone and the morning sky and Mollie sleeping next to me, bathroom is the first stop in my day. Brewing coffee is next. I think of my kids and family and go through what’s planned for the day, always knowing a day has a special way of unfolding as it often does, with new and sweet adventures.
Name 3 things that inspire your style. At the ripe age of 72 style has established itself through years of putting stuff together that speaks to me. To me, it’s important, that stuff makes me feel good; whether that’s in clothes, furnishings, artwork, cars. Having beautiful stylish people in my life, whom I admire and appreciate helps me stay current and aware of what the style of the day is. And magazines and photos also help me stay current.
If you could give advice to yourself as a ten-year-old, what would you say? I would tell my little ten year old to trust her inner voice. And to take time in growing up. That there is no rush and lots of time to experience life.
What’s something you can’t live without? The love of my family sustains me. The sun warms me and feeds my soul. And the ocean, stars, skies and nature gives me faith that there is something beyond us that glues it all together.
Where did you grow up? I grew up in Brooklyn, in a neighborhood of people who were separate yet formed a community. I grew up with friends who informed me about life and I grew up in the “country” where I spent care-free summers, filled with freedom, fun, laughter and first loves.
How old are you? It is shocking to me that my chronological age is 72 years of age. Growing up and even into adulthood 72 years was a time for slowing down, inactivity, and a time of quiet. My experience is nothing like this. I find myself just starting a new chapter of my life where each day presents new opportunities and adventures.
What are you passionate about? I am passionate about keeping us safe and moving forward. I am passionate about human rights, fairness and protecting our children so they enjoy a life in a more equitable, safe, kind world.
Talk about the most challenging thing you’ve overcome, how did you do it? Overcoming a debilitating depression was absolutely the most challenging thing I had to overcome. I was blessed to have beautiful children, family, good care and the knowledge that I was going to persevere.
Coffee or tea? Coffee, Coffee, and Coffee. I think tea was always part of illness and was served when recovery from a cold, an upset stomach, a sore throat and so that’s what I associate tea with.
What quote inspires you the most? Be Here Now – and all I learned from Ram Dass.
What song makes you feel like you can accomplish anything? Coldplay – I Used To Rule The World – there is something about the words and melody that pumps me up.
What does religion mean to you? Religion to me is not the organization that unfortunately goes along with religion. To me it is what flows through my blood. It is the traditions I grew up with and pass along to my family. It is the action of aiding our fellow men and women. And it is the knowledge that there is something beyond us that helps life to unfold in exactly the way it does.
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A collection of wisdom, my personal beliefs, and practices to improve YOUR life.
The Law of Attraction
“And when you want something, all the universe conspires in helping you to achieve it.” - Paulo Coelho
I have always had an ability to achieve everything I have ever set my mind to. This is not because I’m some sort of superhuman who is naturally gifted at everything but rather because I have faith in the universe and truly believe that everything I want already exists and is attainable to me.
The way that we think has direct impacts on what we attract. For example, if you think to yourself that you want to make more money but also believe that this won’t be possible for you then you are right. It won’t be possible. If you want to make more money and believe that you can and will you’re on the right track. Believing is the first step to accomplishing any goal; commitment and consistency follow.
I personally believe in the law of attraction which essentially states that focusing on positive energy will bring positivity into your life and focusing on negative energy will allow negativity to enter your life, and that by vibrating at the same frequency as what you are aiming to attract you can achieve anything you desire.
Everything the universe has to offer vibrates at its own frequency. Positive things and positive people vibrate at high frequencies and negative things and negative people vibrate at low frequencies. For example, if you are vibrating at a low frequency, walking around with a cloud over your head and a sorry face, and you are wondering why there aren't any happy, ambitious people in your life it could have to do with your frequency. If you begin actively committing to smiling more and setting aside time to do things you love to do, you will quickly realize more happy people around you, and you will attract better energy into your life. You must believe that the positive people you seek already exist just as you must believe everything you desire already exists.
What and who you surround yourself with is what and who you will attract.
ACTION IS KEY
If you are an artist and haven’t painted in a week and wonder why you’re feeling uninspired GET OUT YOUR PAINT BRUSHES AND PAINT.
If you are a writer and haven’t come up with a new idea no matter how long you stare at a blank word document and the black bar on the blank page blinking at you GO OUTSIDE, STARE AT THE SKY, MEDITATE.
ACTION IS KEY
You can’t have anything by doing nothing.
“When you do things from your soul, a river moves through you. Freshness and a deep joy are the signs.” - Rumi
I hit a low point in 2016 where I didn’t feel like myself. I pride myself on being ambitious and motivated. I am happiest when I am busiest and I know this, yet I was spending days doing nothing due to an unprecedented lack of determination and energy to succeed. I needed to make a major change to shift my frequency, so I applied for an internship at an art museum and education center local to me. I was interviewed by 3 of the lead educators and it was fantastic. Not only was I offered the position during the interview but I was asked to start working the following day. This was a rare circumstance, but my life truly changed drastically overnight.
From the next day forward my entire world was altered. I went from vibrating at a low frequency to a high one...constantly buzzing from spending the majority of my time creating art, surrounded by creative people, in an open environment.
I have been creating art all my life and I have been teaching art for nearly 7 years. Both of these creative outlets provide me with a sense of fulfillment, purpose, empowerment, and liberation from all of the background noise of life. Spending the majority of my time with youthful energy raises my frequency. When surrounded by bubbly children, I can be my goofiest, most inspired, and authentic self. When surrounded by artists, I meet more creative people like myself and can feel understood and respected for choosing a creative path. Creating art EVERY DAY keeps my ideas fresh and helps me to attract more art opportunities. What you do is what you attract so figure out what it is that you are passionate and set goals for yourself to make time to do what you love each and every day.
Goals and Using Mantras and Vision Boards
“...there’s nothing cooler than watching your entire reality shift into one that is the perfect expression of you." - Jen Sincero
No matter what goals you are working towards we all have personal thresholds. When reached, we want to give up rather than push forward past stages of difficulty. Maybe you want to start reading books for 30 minutes everyday rather than watching TV. You set this manageable goal that you believe you can achieve, and you spend time imagining yourself following through. You make a commitment and begin reading. After the 3rd day in a row of reading for 30 minutes you sit down with your book and your mind begins to wander; you are starting to think of more valuable things you “should” be doing with that time. Sometimes it is hard to stay true to your goals when you don’t give them the significance they deserve. If setting aside time to read makes you feel good, it is valuable. Whether you want to read more, paint more, spend more time with friends, or improve your time management skills you need to cut out all room for excuses and you must commit to your goal in a habitual way. If you are serious about achieving what you desire you must treat your goals the same way you treat all of your priorities. Once you commit it is important that you keep up with your new formed habits until your goal has been reached or you have fully incorporated whatever it is you are working on into your routine. Consistency is vital to success. Nobody is an overnight success. Just like anything else, achieving your goals and trusting the universe takes practice. If your goal is to write a novel, set manageable goals for yourself that rely on consistency and be unwavering about them. Write one paragraph a day from 5:00 - 6:00 PM no exceptions. If your goal is to improve your confidence create affirmations for yourself and consistently repeat them when you wake up in the morning and again before you go to bed.
A few tips I have for implementing my own goals are creating mantras and vision boards.
I love mantras. I have anxiety and sometimes the best way to quiet my busy brain is to repeat a simple sentiment over and over. Mantras can be used for all sorts of things and often times are used to manifest goals.
If you want to get a job promotion, be healthier, meet your soulmate, or do just about anything - mantras can help you. Be specific and repeat your mantra as you meditate. Clear your mind of all unrelated thoughts and let your dreams consume you. You can manifest whatever you desire. Starting and ending each day with your goals in mind will help align your energy with achieving that goal. Some simple mantras I use are: “Keep Your Calm” and “Inhale gratitude exhale bad attitude.”
Create visions boards by collaging images of the specific things you want in your life. Write about the life you see yourself living, the people you are with, what you are wearing, what you eat each day. Be specific and write everything that comes to mind even if you think it is impossible (especially the things you think are impossible). Hang your vision board above your workspace or any other place that you will see each day. This is pure magic. Personally, in January 2016 I hung up a vision board containing all my goals for the year and everything I wanted to manifest. The craziest thing is that every single picture I had on there, everything I wanted to come true DID. I was accepted to the University I wanted to be accepted to even though it was a reach school, I conquered my relationship goals, I spent a considerable amount of time outdoors, I visited so many art museums, and I went on dozens of roadtrips with my friends. The law of attraction is real; your goals are real; everything you want to achieve is achievable.
By thinking about your goals more, you’re more likely to be active and pursue the steps to make them a reality. Say yes more. Be open. Believe that all of the good already exists because it DOES; it really, truly does.
Loving Yourself +Accepting Others
“Imagine what our world would be like if everyone loved themselves so much that they weren’t threatened by other people’s opinions or skin colors or sexual preferences or talents or education or possessions or lack of possessions or religious beliefs or customs or their general tendency to just be whoever the hell they are." - Jen Sincero
Treating yourself with the utmost kindness is imperative. If you are being hard on yourself, one exercise I suggest is to imagine yourself as a child. How would you respond to 5 year old you if you were feeling down? Probably not so harshly.
Sometimes without noticing it, we treat ourselves poorly, and then wonder why people around us don’t treat us with respect. It all starts from within. It’s normal to feel under appreciated, but you should always be your own biggest supporter. Loving yourself fully and unconditionally, in spite of and/or because of your flaws, embracing all of who you are and the magic you are capable of is incredible. Every day I make sure to smile in the moments I can to just show appreciation that I get to wake up and go be me. You should be your favorite person. You should love yourself. This will help you to love others.
By loving yourself and loving others, a whole cyclical pattern of happiness, love, and amazingness is created, and it’s pretty fucking awesome. Everyone knows how great it feels to receive a compliment. Every opportunity you see to be genuinely kind you should TAKE ADVANTAGE OF IT. Nobody will ever judge you for complimenting them. Go up to strangers and tell them you like their style. Tell your classmate you were impressed with how eloquently they spoke during their project presentation. Often times when I receive a compliment my immediate response is to compliment that person back, continuing to spread the joy. Social media has it’s pros and cons, but it can be used as a good medium to spread love. It is incredibly easy to comment on a friends post with a positive message. Tell your friends they are beautiful, creative, witty, etc. It doesn’t cost a dime but it can make someone feel like a hundred bucks.
Social Media - Comparison For Breakfast
“When you’re busy creating your own fulfillment, you won’t feel the need to seek it from others." - Rachel Wolchin
In my ‘Badass Women’ series, I almost always ask the girls I interview how they start their days. I hear pretty consistently that the first thing people of this generation do as they open their eyes is check their phones; scrolling through Instagram and consuming images.
Social media can be great, but it can also be a catalyst for comparison. Comparing yourself to others isn’t a healthy way to start your day. Consuming images isn’t always nourishing to our bodies, and it certainly is not part of a balanced diet.
Cutting down on electronics cleanses your soul of comparison.
I think social media can be great but, like most things, it’s all about how you use it. As I mentioned before, social media can be used as a platform to spread joy through commenting compliments. You can share all of the goodness in your life and show the world what you are passionate about. However, when used as an outlet for negativity ((even unintentionally)) time spent on apps and social media becomes a problem.
We look around and see this digital world of perfection. Everyone is showing the good. And while I think it's better to radiate positivity and I think that rubs off on people; honesty is important too. It is rare to find accounts that show the reality of someone’s day. Our feeds act more like a highlight reel, and while that is self-evident, it is SO incredibly easy to forget that EVERYONE else is also only sharing their best moments, and the low points HAPPEN FOR EVERYONE; they just go unseen.
By using social media less, you train yourself to become less reliant on acting based on comparison. It may appear that the other people you know are always wearing the best clothes or travelling to the greatest places and so you try to start living more like that too, possibly from a place of jealousy. Yet, we do this without an awareness for how they felt or for what we truly desire. Maybe you don’t actually care so much about clothes or seeing the world but all you want to do is pursue your music career. Yet, you subconsciously are expending energy focused on comparing who you are and what you don’t have in relation to what other people have.
By forcing someone else’s experience onto your own you are compositing, and authenticity is blurred by a transparent layer of replication. Comparison is the root of the issue. You visually see things through somebody else’s lens before you have experienced it. We are so immersed in an over abundance of images. You can see a flat lay of food on your phone before you’ve even had a meal yourself. But it’s merely visual. We perceive the rest...the people the ‘instagrammer’ was with, the sounds of the café, the taste of the toast and eggs, the smell of fresh coffee and the feel of misty morning air.
Then, we go to the café and maybe we don’t document it. Maybe we just sit and drink our tea alone and send emails. We are still experiencing the same sounds, tastes, and smells, but visual comparison tricks us into thinking our experience is subpar. We invent a better, edited, and filtered world that doesn’t exist.
But good times do exist. And we can capture them, but in the moment we’re not always able to be conscious that the best memories are passing us by. Humans have a hard time being present. We have a hard time not thinking about what’s next for us, or worse, thinking someone else is having a better time than us.
“You know, like this moment, it's holy. But we walk around like it's not holy. We walk around like there's some holy moments and there are all the other moments that are not holy, right, but this moment is holy, right? And if film can let us see that, like frame it so that we see, like, "Ah, this moment. Holy." And it's like "Holy, holy, holy" moment by moment. But, like, who can live that way? Who can go, like, "Wow, holy"? Because if I were to look at you and just really let you be holy, I don't know, I would, like, stop talking.” - Waking Life 2001
Be present more often. When you live from a place of positivity and self-love, comparison is no longer second nature. It will take time. Be patient. But with focus, you can train yourself to stop caring what other people think of you, and you can let go of your fears that someone else out there is ‘better’ than you. You can teach yourself to be present.
Get lost staring at the sky. Forget where you are, deep within the pages of a good book. Get closer to your higher self as you journal. The more time you spend living in the moment, the easier it will be for you to recognize holy moments as they occur.
When I am with my friends, I can recognize these significant moments as they’re happening. It makes me appreciate the conversations more. I internalize and memorize the songs we listen to. I try my best to remember how I feel. I try to hold onto what is happening in the moment by recognizing the positivity and the sentimentality before growing nostalgic and romanticizing the memories.
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So...allow yourself to “stop talking” and absorb the magnificence of this planet we get to call home.
Appreciate the goodness and the madness. We share the air we breathe and the water we are composed of with every sentient being in the universe. In a world that feels divided, recognize that we share an ancient oneness.